Ask a boy for a little bit of reassurance and they go running in the other direction. 

Why do stability and certainty have to be all or none terms? Why do they have to mean "marry me, right now"? I am certainly not asking anyone to know that after 8 months. I don't even know what I am going to eat for breakfast tomorrow. 

Why can't certainty mean..."I am certain that you are adorable, and I am certain that you make me happy right now. I am certain that I will see you this week because seeing you makes me happy. I am certain that I am going to make my very best effort not to hurt you when you cannot afford to be hurt. And I am certain that even though I may get distant, you are special to me".  

Why can't stability mean "you are important to me, and I feel distant and confused and tired right now but I am going to put that on hold for just a little bit because I see that you are having a bad week and could use some sympathy and a hug".

Are my expectations really that unreasonable?